Which of the new words do you already know? Which words sound
familiar to you? Can you think of a situation where you may have heard the word used?
Read the short essay that uses each of the new words. Write a synonym for each word that would make the
most sense in the context of the sentence.
What is the
criterion of a good friend? True friendships
can start instantly but they take time to build. Here are a few qualities to look for when making friends as a teen -- and
beyond.
1. A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about
their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When
something doesn't seem right, they elucidate or let you
know.
2. A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first
place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're
the life of the party, others are fun because they discern every strange little detail about a situation. Some people
are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
3. A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you.
They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually delineate when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or distraught. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys
you, they try to change their demeanor or at least talk to you about it.
4. A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the
same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help
you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or embroil you in situations that make you uncomfortable
or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.
5. A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend,
your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly, demean or try to deflate your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned
and do their best to defend when you're in trouble.
6. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know
that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that
someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested
about it rather than being elusive and unavailable.
7. A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in
a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get
divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.
8. A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being irritating
or egregious.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true
friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.
They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones --
and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you
aren't at your best.